There was no misunderstanding

I was working as a junior researcher at a department where I felt I did not belong. I was one of the few non-Dutch speaker, person of color, woman of color. One day I forgot to bring my own keys to my office. I went to the admin to ask for a spare key so […]

Regretful Politeness

A postdoc, a feminist. They were in an open relationship. They told me that they are looking for a threesome. I pretended to not notice that they were considering me as their ‘candidate’. One day, the postdoc’s then-boyfriend texted me, asking whether ‘they can take me home’. I declined. Politely. (I blame myself for that […]

Memories That Hurt

I was a PhD student and he is a postdoc. We were friends. At least, that is what I believed us to be. Until one day he expressed his romantic interest in me. I rejected his approach, saying that I am not interested. That day, I went home and received a text from the postdoc. […]